Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Intersex Queer or Questioning Intersex Asexual or Allied - LGBTQIA People and Community
As a mark of recognition to all those individuals who may be seeking support and visiting this page I would firstly like to say 'Welcome'. You are all welcome and thank you for visiting my website. You might be lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer.
You may not identify with any of these labels and may simply identify as a man who has sex with men or as a woman who has sex with women.
You may identify as a transgender person who has sex with the opposite sex or same sex. You may be questioning your sexuality and your sexual preferences.
You may identify as Asexual and have no sexual feelings or desires. Or you may be Pansexual identifying with the fluidity of gender, or maybe you identify with a queergender on the gender spectrum.
However you identify, whatever your preference of being addressed and whatever the difficulties and challenges you would like to discuss - you are welcome. /Erich
Who's in a name?
As the identity of a community evolves so do the needs of the individuals within the community become clearer.
Recently, in a valiant attempt to make all the individuals in the LGBTQIA community feel included (and valid, referenced, belonging, named and represented), the group identity and its abbreviation has changed and morphed into several versions.
LGB, LGBT, LGBTQ, LGBTQQ, LGBTIQ are historic Irish examples. How this is evolving is a sign of the commitment this community has to diversity, inclusion and freedom of expression.
For confidential counselling in sexual identity, questioning, sexuality and coming out contact Erich on 086 - 120 6151 or email Erich for more information here.
Call: 086 - 120 6151
Dundrum & Camden Street
After the Yes!
Acceptance, Belonging and the Validation of the Yes!
A FREE open discussion will be facilitated this Sunday (31st May 2015) for anyone who supported the Yes Equality campaign.
We invite you to share your experience in the company of likeminded people, as we acknowledge the impact of the campaigns, of social media, of canvassing, debating and the disclosing of personal stories in the run up to the Referendum.
We invite you to offer support by listening to those who were impacted by the tactics and statements of the opposition.
We invite you to acknowledge your personal experience of growing up and living in Ireland as an LGBT person.
We invite you to consider the changes this referendum has made to your life, to your future and for the generations to come.
We invite you to reflect on what it means to feel accepted, to belong and to feel validated by the Yes vote.
Places are limited. One person per registration form. In an effort to create an open adult discussion children under 16 years of age cannot attend.
Unfortunately the venue is not wheelchair accessible.
The event and registration is FREE of charge.
Registration is necessary as places are limited. If you need to cancel your attendance please use the Registration form below.
After The Yes!
Disclaimer: This is a FREE event organized for the purpose of supporting and debriefing anyone who has felt affected or impacted in the run up to and during the Referendum on Marriage Equality in Ireland. It is a closed group to Yes supporters. The group will be invited to share personal experiences and therefore all attendees will be expected to treat each member respectfully, to listen and to support each other. Individuals not adhering to the group focus will be asked to leave.
The paragraphs below are a 'work in progress' - a bit like we all are. Continuously developing, changing and growing...more to come on Coming Out, Counselling for the LGBT Community, Families & Friends, Identity, LGBT Isolation, Depression, Anxiety Stress. LGBT Relationship Counselling, Bereavement, Sex & Sexuality, Addictions, Internet & Porn and Social Media Apps & Sex.
Am I Gay?
More people than you think ask themselves this question at some point in their lives. Something slips into your awareness that you hadn't noticed before. A noticing of something different about you. At 8 years of age, at 16, at 50 - maybe even as early as you can remember. Realising your sexual preferences (that is, who you are attracted too) is one part of the complex process in the development of your sexual identity - or in other words - it is part of growing up. It doesn't happen overnight. At first you might notice something different about you; that you are different to the other boys and girls. Later as your body begins to sexually develop you might notice other differences, things like being drawn to another boy in your class, or that your heart races when she choses to sit beside you at lunchtime. Little indicators that can cause great shifts in who you are and how you feel about yourself.
The RoadMap to You
Are you curious to ask yourself - who am I? Curiosity can be experienced with fear and doubt. The unknown is often experienced like this, if you think about it. We assume that the unknown is filled with potentially negative outcomes and possibilities (what if I admit that I am gay, what if I come out, what will people think of me, will my family accept me?) because we don't have the answers. The unknown is scary.
Imagine being lost in a new city; you are capable of finding your way around but being lost feels scary and uncomfortable; you feel vulnerable. So what do you do? You get a map to inform yourself, you take time out to figure out where you are, you try one direction and end up doubling back to where you started, you try again and begin to get a sense of the place, it begins to feel familiar, less unknown and maybe you will ask for help before finally, after trial and error you arrive and you know exactly where you are.
Possibly the most difficult part of realising and growing into your sexual identity is the potential feeling of isolation that comes from trying to figure this all out. What does it mean if I like guys? Am I wrong to want to be with a woman? Why do I feel this way? Does anyone else feel like this? Can anyone see what I am going through? Will they hate me if they figure me out?
So we hide what we are feeling. Thoughts and uncomfortable emotions are pushed to the back of our minds. Covering it up. Trying not to feel the shame, the fear, at times the disgust that comes from thoughts we can't control. Thoughts that we have been told are unnatural, sinful and wrong. Even in the context of a modern, multi-cultural, multi-religious, democratic society that is Ireland today, many young people who are growing into their individual identity experience their differences and preferences as wrong, socially unaccepted, immoral and rejected. Not everyone experiences this, but many do.